You guys! I Feel Pretty is in theaters today and you’re going to want to see it! I got to see an advanced screening of Amy Schumer’s latest movie by STXfilms, I Feel Pretty, last week. I left the theater feeling empowered and happy. This movie is funny, full of heart and full of tons of great themes. The cast is crazy amazing and the soundtrack was even fantastic. For me, this movie is a reminder that self-confidence is key and that you are responsible for how you feel about yourself. But as the reviews started rolling in (some of which were written based on not seeing the movie, just the trailer) people seemed to be loving to hate this movie. Dang. People felt like the movie put too much of an emphasis on body size and outward beauty leading to the character’s happiness.
But those people are crazy. This movie is more than just a gal realizing it’s about what’s inside that counts. It’s easy to look at the trailer and think that is what you’ll get from a viewing of this movie. But I can’t wait for you to see it and realize it’s about so much more! What you may not know about me is that I majored in Communications with an emphasis in TV and Film in college. I love the art of storytelling and consider a film a success if it makes anyone who sees it feel real emotion rather than just be entertained. Amy Schumer, along with the writers, producers and the rest of the cast, do it and do it well. This film was able to do both entertain and be absolutely relatable to everyone as well as make each viewer recall their own feelings of inadequacy.
This movie is funny, but doesn’t hit you over the head with it. I went in to the movie expecting (hoping, maybe?) that it would be laugh after laugh. But there were also a lot of tender moments and Amy shows real vulnerability as Renee. This movie is equal parts fun to watch and empowering
Confidence is Everything in I Feel Pretty
This movie is like a really fun crash course in loving yourself. A few other bloggers and I got the opportunity to chat with Amy Schumer by phone yesterday and ask her more about the movie and why she felt so compelled to be a part of the project. Yes, you guys, I was on the phone with Amy Schumer. My mother-in-law thinks we’re now BFF and will probably try to invite her to Thanksgiving dinner.
Prompted by our questions, Amy gave us even more insight in to her life (which somewhat mirrors her character, Renee) and how she has changed her narrative to learn to be happy in who she, in every aspect of life. Her comments are italicized but I added or deleted words, here and there, to make her statements complete sentences, stand alone or be in better context to understand.
The Amy Schumer and I Feel Pretty Guide to Confidence
Learn to Like Yourself
“What attracted me to the script was the message, the idea of getting out of your own way and confidence being so mental. It’s so much easier to comfort our friends, but this movie’s really about being open to loving yourself and not looking for other people’s experiences to define yourself.”
I loved hearing Amy speak on this. It takes time, it takes life experience and it’s sometimes really hard to do, but when you truly like and love yourself, you have so much more to give to others. It’s important to stop and take a look at your strengths and realize that they make you special and are unique to you.
If you’re unhappy with how fit you are or the love handles you have, start on the inside and work your way out. When you look at the qualities that really make you, you, it’s easier to gain momentum to be able to see past the outward appearance. I really think most people don’t care about your physical appearance. They care if you are a good friend/person, who sees their own value.
There are so many things, other than physical appearance, that contribute to our self-confidence. It’s important to not get caught up on the outside and really see ourselves.
“I know they say if just one adult makes you feel good about yourself, that children carry that with them all the time. So, you know, I would pay attention to how you talk about yourself. As mothers, you guys are in such a unique position to really help your children love themselves, you know.”
As parents, we need to pay extra special attention with how we talk about ourselves. Kids pick up on things like hearing you talk about being on a diet all the time, or worrying about how your clothes are fitting. Keep it in mind and remember what you say to them sometimes sticks.Stop The Negative Self Talk
“I think we can’t live up to our full potentials unless we feel comfortable in our own skin. I think women really get held back with any perceived flaws they have of themselves. You do your own damage before anybody else actually says anything to you.”
This is so true! I find that I talk myself out of things because I come up with some scenario where I’m met with resistance or tear down my own confidence. We need to change our mindset about how we approach life. EVERYONE has flaws and feels insecure. I love how this movie shows that in a variety of ways like the GORGEOUS Emily Ratajkowski’s character feeling less than and Michelle William’s character feeling self-conscious about her voice.
“But also, you know, not questioning someone if they give you a compliment or if they love you. I’ve also learned how to accept compliments, you know, instead of, “No, I look disgusting,” I’m just like, “Thank you.”
My husband HATES when he tells me how great I look and I make a face and ignore him. Saying “thank you” is hard. But I’m really trying to learn to say it and accept it as the truth. Maybe it comes from past traumas (like high school mean girls) but the truth is, most people are not jerks and truly mean the complement they gave you. We are worthy of that compliment.
When we learn to turn off the negative thoughts, or at the very least overcome them, only then can we see that we can get that job that we really want, or start a charity that you’ve been wanting to, or even run for office. We can’t share our gifts with the world until we truly stop the negative self talk.Block out the Haters
“When someone insults you, it’s saying more about how they feel than how they feel about you.”
Everyone is going through something and we’ve been told since we were little kids that when people are mean to you, they are often compensating for an insecurity they feel about themselves. We can’t forget that! People choose words that hurt to make themselves feel better. You can’t take that personally because it’s not on you. You just have to brush that off and keep it moving.
“I block things out by shutting my phone off, just twice a day. And, that’s really helpful, because when we’re in our phones all day or we’re on the internet, you know, we have all these outside sources telling us how–the advertisers who want us to spend money- that we’re not good enough so we buy their product, just to tune all of that out twice a day has been really helpful.”
With Instagram, TV, Facebook and all the different ways people can be slipped advertising today it’s more important than ever to remember that so much of what we see each day is designed to get us to spend money. Advertisers directly play off our insecurities to get us to feel like we need their product to be better which is just not the case. Stop comparing yourself to others, stop thinking we always have to be improved upon. Don’t listen to the noise.Be Grateful
“But, also, I make a real habit of looking myself in the mirror and smiling and appreciating who I am, not wanting to look any different, appreciating the package I come in today. Having those thoughts, being grateful for who I am, what I look like, everything, just being grateful for it. And, I’ve gotten a lot better about it.”
“I used to stand there in my Spanx, I added that moment in because it’s a moment that I’ve had so frequently and that we’ve–I think we’ve all experienced. And, I don’t have those moments anymore. I was looking at myself, almost angry and disappointed.”
“I was born looking how I look. No judgment for people who get their–who get plastic surgery or whatever. I’m not going to do that personally. I want to just be grateful for the package I come in, and also just, I’m in a unique position where I’ve spent a lot of time with women who are famous models or actresses. I know that they don’t feel any better about themselves than my friends who are nurses and teachers.”
“And, having that commonality, it really shows you how much it’s all mental, and it’s just such a waste of energy. So, having all that knowledge, and just keeping that at the forefront of my mind, looking in the mirror and smiling and meditation helps me stay grateful.”
What she said. Our physical appearance is really just a shell protecting the heart of who we really are.
Building Confidence is Hard Work
“Pay attention to the times where you feel your best. You know, and for me, it’s when I’m hanging out with my friends or my family, and you’re not even thinking about what you look like and you feel so confident, and trying to carry that with you all the time.”
Building self-confidence is not an overnight process. By the time I reached 40 years old, I finally felt good about who I really am, what I like, what I believe, and even the skin I’m in. I still hate the cellulite that continues to appear on my legs but I’m not going to let it stop me from anything. I am confident in what makes me unique and that I have a lot of positive gifts to put in to the world.Lift Up Others
“This movie is bringing up a conversation. And, when you tell someone to feel confident, they really want to fight you on it. When you say you need to learn to love yourself, that upsets people because it’s so much easier said than done. It takes big work. It takes more than this movie even, but I think this movie is a really strong step in the right direction. I know I’m not perfect, but I’m going to do my best to empower women and make them feel the best they can about themselves.”
“We need women empowered, just because we can speak to the experience of being women.”
“Most of the people who will review my movie will be white men, and I didn’t make this movie for them. I made this for us, and I think it really points out that, you know, if me, as me, I don’t think that I would be in a real position to, you know, to review a movie that spoke to mostly a male experience. And, so I think women innately support each other and it takes a while to get there and there’s so much we’re working through emotionally and everything that we’ve been born with. But, I think that if we all just, like, work together and support each other, we can get a lot done.”
She shared a story with us about how as a gift to herself, she shared this movie with a theater full of teen girls. As you watch this movie, it takes you to times in your own life where you overheard or were told something that has stuck with you forever. Renee’s speech at the end of the movie is empowering and such a good reminder to let it go. Movies are made with the intention to provide entertainment for an hour and a half. I love that this movie was made with the hope that it would help retrain a new generation of girls (but would totally be great for boys to see too!) on how to not stand in their own way.
I don’t remember why the movie is rated PG-13. I guess there is cursing and stuff but I think every kid could get so much out of I Feel Pretty. While there were some far-reaching jokes (like when someone calls her, sir) Amy’s performance was phenomenal. From her vulnerability and body baring moments to her over the top new-found confidence, we see extremes and growth through a really fun story.
I heard an interview with Rory Scovel, who plays the leading man in the movie, where he really broke this movie down in a way that made so much sense for me. He said we are in control of our own value and we need to remember that and understand that power. With social media, etc., you don’t have to give other people your power. It’s up to us to feel amazing about ourselves and live life as we want to in the skin we’re in.
Michelle Williams is an absolute star and stole the movie for me. Her comedic timing was impeccable and I need her to make 100 more comedies. And that voice! Just wait! You’re going to love it!
I would have loved for them to dive a little bit deeper in to her friendships and develop her friend characters a little bit more. I also think it’s easy to miss the fact that when she’s her pre-confident self, she’s afraid to grab authority and step in to her power at work. I know I’ve felt this and think we’re worried about the backlash that might come as a result of our success.
Watch the Trailer for I Feel Pretty
The film presents a fascinating and relatable “what if” scenario- what if you could have 100% of your confidence every single day? Who would you be, how would you live and what would your life look like?
I Feel Pretty is in Theaters Friday, April 20, 2018
Be confident, be bold, be you.
Grab your friends and kids and go see this movie.
Thank you to STXfilms for inviting me to the screening and facilitating the interview with Amy Schumer!
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