What does it say about me that a movie called ‘Bad Moms’ is totally “on brand” for Cupcakes and Cutlery…When I first heard about the Bad Moms movie I got super excited. I even went out of my way to ask if I could help promote this movie. Long story short, this movie is about moms learning to make time for themselves and not always put their family’s first and generally doing less on purpose. AMEN! When I first became a mom (10 years ago), you were considered selfish if you tried to have interests other than attending to your child. I am glad to say that we have progressed a little bit past this now and many women do have hobby’s or even jobs that they love and aren’t vilified too harshly for. But we are a long way from finding balance and this movie wants to help change that. While this movie is SO MUCH EFFING FUN, I still think it is important for all parents to see. I was invited to screen the movie and attend the press junket but all of these thoughts are my own. I’m proud to say I’m a “bad mom” and I hope you will be too.
The Bad Moms movie screening was held in Burbank and, of course, we had to jump right in on all the fun. But I need to take a moment and clarify what it means to be a “bad mom”. At first, I was a little offended that they would call someone trying to place importance on themselves,”bad”. But I get it. A move called “Balanced Mom” wouldn’t get people in to theaters. Being a “bad mom” isn’t just about going out and getting drunk with your friends (but it should be part of it because we all need to get a little silly from time to time), it’s about empowering yourself to take your life back. It’s about straying from the conventional responsibilities that say moms should do it all and do it all perfectly. It’s about saying no to the activities and people who suck our will to live and being ok with any fall out from it. It’s about making intentional changes to bring more happiness in to your home even if it isn’t what your neighbors are doing. It’s about not doing your kid’s lives for them and letting them struggle to get through it (thanks, Common Core, for helping to ensure that we can’t help them with homework…). Being a “bad mom” is embracing fun for fun’s sake and rediscovering the importance of friendships again. It’s a great message and one that so many of us need to hear.
Now that’s cleared up, let’s get back to the movie screening experience, shall we? This was my first movie junket but some of these other blogger gals are total pros. We had a little fun on the red carpet before it was time to take our seats.
From left to right: Tee, Shelby, me and MelissaThey brought out the cast of the movie to welcome us and then surprised us with a Flo Rida concert!! What?! Yeah. He played 5 songs, had amazing dancers and smacked some mom ass when he brought some up on stage for a little Bad Mom fun prior to screening the movie.
Day 2 of the press junket brought the ultimate pampering for us. We were treated to blow outs and other beauty services and treatments, like massages, along with some fun lessons (like learning to twerk…I’ll just leave that right there) and delicious food. Plus they had a room for fixing up our faces with professional makeup artists. It was the ultimate day for taking time for ourselves, having a little fun with mom friends and I am so appreciative to have gotten to experience it. Then we were encouraged to grab sweet treats and mimosas (you don’t have to ask me twice) before sitting down to interview the some of the cast! My two favorites from the movie are Kathryn Hahn (left) and Mila Kunis. Kathryn’s character, Carla, made the movie for me. She has perfect comedic timing and is simply lovely in real life. She was everything I hoped she’d be and more. Mila’s character, Amy, is all of us. She keeps pushing herself to do it all and eventually breaks. Kathryn shared that even if she wasn’t in the movie she would absolutely be the mom to gather her friends together to go see it. To see “mommyhood” written as an outrageous comedy that is also relatable is new and exciting in the movie space. She also spoke of the message that she hoped we would all take away from the movie and that is to find solidarity. As moms, we should support and help each other and not be judgey and mean. It really does take a village! Mila shared some of her “bad mom” moments of being a new-ish mom and both actresses were truly as relatable as their characters, which is part of the reason this film works. The casting is crazy amazing. Both gals were quick to admit that they too, like all of us, have mom guilt about their jobs taking them away from home. But it’s a fact of life and it’s all in how you juggle the roles.
Kathryn had this amazing advice to share which I just love. When asked what advice she would give to her pre-kid self from what she has learned about being a parent she said, “I would say absolutely just don’t waste your precious brain space worrying about that nonsense. So much nonsense was I worrying about that I wish that I hadn’t been, and it goes so fast. Like, who cares what people think? You know your kid better than anybody. You find your tribe that are the same that you’re like minded mamas. And it’s all noise, the rest of it.” YES, girl.
Next up for the panel were the writers/directors of the Bad Moms movie, Jon Lucas and Scott Moore (who also wrote The Hangover – brilliant and one of my fave TV shows, Mixology, that of course was cancelled because all the shows I like get cancelled – sorry about that, guys, it was not you, it was me) and Suzanne Todd, producer extraordinaire (among her credits are the Austin Powers movies…oh, behave!). Jon and Scott were quick to point out that it might seem odd that two men came up with this mom-focused movie. They shared how, as work from home dads, they were noticing just how much their wives were juggling each day plus all the outside stresses and dramas associated with raising kids among a school community that is striving for perfection. The PTA element in the film is familiar to all moms of school age children, and therefore, the perfect way to show the supposed “good moms.” They were quick to point out that after really diving deep in to this subject and interviewing tons of moms about their experience, they were actively encouraging their wives to be “bad moms.”
A takeaway that Scott hopes people will leave with is, “Just to do less, and that like doing less is okay and that like maybe this is a uniquely dad point of view, but like our wives and all the moms that are in our social circle that I know work so hard, and they do so many things. And is there a way to maybe do 5 percent less and spend 5 percent maybe more time taking care of yourself or hanging out with your kids or just having a little more fun in your life. I think it’s gotten so crazy what the expectations are. And again, it makes for great comedy. So, I’m grateful for that. We got a movie out of it. But, it’s irrational how much moms are expected to do.” Scott Moore for President!
And if you were worried just how real the movie version of motherhood will look in this movie, this is what he had to say about their approach to it: “I think there’s a view of motherhood when you’re not a mom yet that’s way more Hallmark and sweet and, like, oh, motherhood is just like backlit, and everyone’s wearing dresses, and it’s just–and you’re like, no, no, no, no. Being a mom is like three in the morning. There’s shit on the wall. And there’s a kid cutting you with something. It’s brutal. It’s a war. It’s a physical battle. And one of our execs had a great line, which is like people are like how did you do an R-rated movie about moms? And he has this great line. It’s like motherhood is an R-rated job. Like, motherhood is not PG. It’s certainly not G. Motherhood is dirty. There’s a lot of stuff. It’s messy. It’s not pretty and clean and your hair looks great.” Seriously, you are going to love this movie. Finally, we heard from Annie Mumolo and Christina Applegate. While Mila and Kathryn’s characters are bad moms, these two represent good, where “good” is overstressed, catty and who you do not want in your friend group. One thing that was apparent between anyone involved in the movie is the great rapport they all had with each other. You can tell that they respect and enjoy each other which probably made their time on set a huge amount of fun. They both talked about how there are “Gwendolyns” (Christina’s queen bee bitch character’s name) in everyone’s lives. They took inspiration from those people to play their characters.
Christina shared a sentiment that really resonated with me. She said, “Cut yourself some slack. I love this saying from my kid’s karate class, I never really even thought about it, but that practice makes progress because perfection is not something you can obtain. And it’s okay to fail. It’s okay to fail in front of your kids. It teaches them that that’s how life goes and to not hold yourself to such insane, unrealistic standards in life because life’s going to throw crap at you all the time. It’s about how you get back up and how you keep moving on, and I think that’s what we’re trying to say in this movie. It’s saying to moms don’t judge each other. Don’t judge yourself because usually we’re shaming ourselves. We’re telling ourselves that we have to be more than we’re capable of doing. You know? And I think that it’s beautiful at the end. Like, she just goes, you know what? We’re all bad moms. We’re all in this together. And we have to help each other. From the Gwendolyns to the hippie moms to the whatever moms, we’re not all these different groups. We’re mothers at the end of the day.”After the interviews we took full advantage of the photo booths. We really had fun for fun’s sake. This is our “bad moms” mean mugging.
In this new comedy from the grateful husbands and devoted father’s who wrote The Hangover, Amy has a seemingly perfect life – a great marriage, over-achieving kids, beautiful home and a career. However she’s over-worked, over-committed and exhausted to the point that she’s about to snap. Fed up, she joins forces with two other over-stressed moms on a quest to liberate themselves from conventional responsibilities – going on a wild, un-mom-like binge of long overdue freedom, fun and self-indulgence – putting them on a collision course with PTA Queen Bee Gwendolyn and her clique of devoted perfect moms.
I’ve got a group of girls schedule to see the Bad Moms movie together. Not on opening night because that would be way too busy. And probably a matinee because we have early bedtimes. That’s how “bad” we are…
I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on the movie! Leave me comments and let me know what your favorite moments were!