Body Image : Shorts or No Shorts?

Short black romper with geometric clutch. // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comSo, I guess I’m really going for it this summer with all these posts about myself.  I mean, I showed you my big old face last week, wrinkles and all.  I’ve shared my scars with you.  Well today I’m sharing my cellulite, stretch marks and body image issues with you.  If you are a regular reader, you know I like to keep it real.  But I also think it is really healthy for me to share this stuff with you.  For years I wouldn’t leave the house without blow drying and straightening my hair.  But I am WAY past that now and it has been very freeing.  Ok, well I still always have makeup but my hair is air dried.  But I have another goal for myself.  One that I think many other people also have.  So let’s encourage each other and see if we can all free one of our body image phobias.  It has been YEARS since I’ve worn shorts.  Yes, I wore them once last summer in Palm Springs.  And guess what, I wore them a few Saturdays ago to the grocery store.  But I’d really like to get to a place where I feel confidant enough to through them on whenever it’s hot out.  When was the last time you wore shorts?  Are you afraid of them like I am?

Black shorts romper.  My goal is to wear shorts this summer. // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comI bought this CUTE black shorts romper from Old Navy while on a vacation in May.  I have not worn it yet except to take these pictures in the safety of Lauren’s back yard.  I didn’t even wear it home.  I changed back in to my other clothes before I left.  Why does it have to be this way?  For me, I think my image issues are two-fold.  Half of it is man-made (ie my cellulite from my love affair with Pop Tarts and my love handles from all those desserts) and the stretch marks I had no control over from growing very fast.  The chalk-white skin doesn’t help anything but since worshipping the sun is out for me, I can only rely on creams to give them color (if I want a nice orangey hue).  I see all kinds of people wearing shorts and it is encouraging to me that one day I’ll be able to wear them too without a second thought.  And since I had a trip to Mexico coming up, where it is like a trillion degrees, I knew that I would HAVE to wear shorts.  

Body image.  How come I can't wear shorts?  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comIt took all my effort to play it cool standing still for Lauren to take these photos.  Sitting is a whole other problem.  I was so uncomfortable sitting in these shorts!  I know that we always see our flaws in a much more pronounced way than others.  I’m choosing to share these photos on here in an effort to help myself overcome my fear of people judging my flaws, which most people wouldn’t do unless they are total a-holes.  Since the beginning of June, I have really changed my diet and have started seeing some crazy improvements.  It really is true, diet and exercise works.  I haven’t put too much emphasis on the exercise portion yet, but the diet has helped me start to improve my body from the inside out.  As well as how I view my body.  I don’t have a scale so I can only go by how my clothes are fitting and the fact that my muffin top is almost gone!  Huzzah!  So the other day when it was super hot and I had to run out to the store, I felt like I could finally reach for a pair of shorts.  I texted 3 different people to let them know I was outside in shorts and I climbed in my car to do my grocery shopping.  Guess what?  No one laughed at me or my legs.  Liberating.  I felt proud that I had really made a difference with my lifestyle for the better and was able to change some of my problem areas just with making better choices.  And there are things that I can do for the stretch marks as well.  I can’t wait to try out this body scrub from Frank which targets cellulite, stretch marks, eczema and more.  I get that it will take more than just a scrub to completely erase my trouble areas, but it is nice to know there are things, especially made from natural ingredients, that might help them out. 

Black ruffle shorts with t-shirt.  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comBefore I left for Mexico I got a spray tan since I knew it would help me feel more confidant in my shorts and DEFINITELY in my swimsuit.  Our first full day there, I wore shorts.  And I didn’t hate it!  I made Lauren take a picture as proof.  This is my best Giselle pose.  Because I am sure she throws herself in to a corner to get THE shot.  We walked around town all day and I ended up loving wearing the shorts.  I felt like a huge hurdle was cleared.  I wore shorts the next day as well.  And when I got home, I didn’t hesitate to put on shorts.  As my tan is gone at this point, I do feel a little more self conscious about wearing them.  But it is WAY less than it was at the start of summer.  I’m going to keep up with my healthy eating and perhaps add in a little more exercise.  Perhaps.  But I have some bad news to report.  I wore those adorable ruffled black shorts one time and since they got ocean water on them I washed them when I got home.  I hand washed them and hung them to dry.  They totally shrunk!  Such a bummer!  I think I can still wear them but only to the pool.  I would NEVER go to the store in them now as I think they may frown on actually seeing that much of a woman’s bum.

We see our flaws.  Other people wouldn't agree with them.  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comNow can we talk for a second about my man hands?  This is another problem area for me.  I mean, look at that dainty little wrist.  And then look at that gorilla hand hanging off of it.

Don't touch my punch bowl. I mean, a girl should be able to drink out of a punchbowl and not feel like she is in a Seinfeld episode.  I was going to share this image last year on Instagram but didn’t because my man hand was just too much to share.  So here it is.  Although diet is not going to change my opinion or size of my hands, I’m going to let my insecurities about them go.  What are the insecurities you need to let go of?  Will you pledge to wear shorts with me this summer and beyond?

Best Hat for Summer

*I was sent this hat by Goorin Bros. but they didn’t sponsor this post. You know I’m a fan of floppy hats.  And this one is perfect for summer travel! I just had to share it! The perfect travel hat for summer vacations.  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comI’m going to be honest with you right now.  My head is odd shaped and I have big ears.  I’m okay with both of these things.  However these issues really limit my hat choices.  Similarly, I can’t usually wear headbands.  They pop right off the top of my cone-shaped head.   I’d love to wear a jaunty fedora or cool Panama hat.  It just isn’t in the cards for me.  But I can and do wear floppy hats.  With my basal cell I need something between me and the sun.  And while the hat doesn’t totally protect me, it definitely helps to keep the sun off my face which is really important.  This Sun Kissed black and white striped hat from Goorin Bros. is my new fave (similar style here the Sun Kissed is sold out for the season! Boo!).  Full disclosure: they sent it to me. But guess what, I would have totally bought it otherwise.  It really is the best hat for summer. 

What to pack for a beach summer vacation. Including this cute hat c/o @goorinbros  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comI can’t wait to share all the details from my Mexico trip soon but I knew that this hat would be perfect to take with me. I think black and white stripes, like leopard print, are a neutral so it would go with everything.  And look how perfect it went with my new bikini top.  I’m drawn to black and white but this small stripe is a really summery way to wear it.  

The Sun Kissed from @goorinbros.  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comI can’t believe how well it traveled.  I’m not the kind of gal to carry on a hat.  So I packed it in my suitcase.  Tip: I crammed the part that sits on your head with all my undergarments and slips to make sure the shape would keep.  I was a little less careful on my return trip and it still held up like a champ! I will be taking this with me on all my summer vacations!  I even carried this in a tote bag one day and it still didn’t get messed up. That is the kind of quality product I need in my life. 

The Sun Kissed from @goorinbros is the best black and white stripe floppy hat to take on vacation!  It's super versatile and goes with everything!  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comIt even looks cute on a cactus.  

This striped floppy hat from @goorinbros travels so well!  Perfect for a Mexican getaway!  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.comI stinking love this hat and am grateful that Grooin Bros. sent it to me.  Thank you Goorin Bros! Be sure to check out their site to see their full selection of hats.  They literally have styles to suit everyone!  And check out their stores if you happen to be in the area, they have them all around the US and Canada.

Walking by the mission in Loreto, Mexico. #vdplfam

Follow Goorin Bros. around the web: Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google +

What to Pack : Beach Vacations

Things I'm coveting for my trip to Mexico.  // www.cupcakesandcutlery.com
How good does a beach vacation sound right now?!  So I’m prepping for a trip to Mexico later this week and you know I had to do a little shopping.  And since one of my summer bucket list items is “wear shorts” (you know you are stupid and old if your summer bucket list item has something about wearing shorts…) on it, I thought a beach vacay would be the perfect time to try some out.  I picked up those adorable black ruffle shorts (bottom right photo) from Ascot + Hart and can’t wait to wear them! (Dang it! These look like they are all sold out.  Check out their other fun short options here!)  Of course I need a spray tan first but then I’m going to wear the sh*t out of those shorts.  I’m also ellipticizing (I know this isn’t really a thing but if you can Jazzercise I really think you oughta be able to ellipticize) so hopefully my thighs won’t clap together as I wear my shorts around the resort.  And I have been making awesome food choices.  I see a little bit of a difference in my body and am totally going to stay on this healthy food business until at least my Palm Springs trip in August.  Of course I want to continue it after, but I really think I need a weekend where all I eat is cake.  I really like cake.

So um, Sharon, how is this post about packing for beach vacations again?  Oh right.  So another item I picked up for my trip, and summer in general, is this fantastic ruffle bikini top by Roxy.  This is perfection for small boobed, birthing hips gals like me.  It helps to balance out the silhouette and guess what else?  Ain’t nothing going to fall out of anywhere.  This would be a great bikini top for playing smashball in the sand (whoa, that sounded so 80′s, right there) or being more active than just lying on your towel.  This is going to be my go-to top for swimming with my kids.  Why are little hands so grabby?  Like, OH NO I think I may be drowning!  You know what will save me?  My moms triangle top bathing suit!  And I’m realizing that this isn’t much of a “how to” post.  It’s more of a “you should totally get these items post.”

And the other items in that photo?  All wish list items.  I keep seeing this round beach towel and it wants to be part of my family.  This white Cleobella kimono is perfection (holy crap!  This item is no longer available either! Here are some other great kimonos and jackets).  I can’t stop dreaming about these Nena and Co. bags.  One day I will break down and buy one.  The colors make my heart happy!  This Tacos and Tequila shirt should be mandatory when even thinking about Mexico.  And I’ve seen these rad little booties in action and think they want to be on my feet.  I can’t even tell you the last time I wore heels, so these would sort of be like training wheels.  That thick heel is right up my alley and I love the color.  All I have at the moment are black shoes and that is just too heavy for an easy, breezy oceanfront dinner.

I really like shopping, so I picked out some other things I would want for a beach vacation:

*This post contains affiliate links. Read more about my editorial policies.

DIY Jewelry Organizer

Super easy DIY pegboard for your necklaces.  \\  www.cupcakesandcutlery.comI’ve been dying to share this super easy DIY Jewelry Organizer with you!  I’ve had it done for a few weeks now and I LOVE it.  Not only has it organized what used to be a super messy area in my walk in closet, but I also wear the jewelry more since it is so easy to see and get to.  Last month I came to the realization that I need to be offline more and actually living my life, not just posting about it.  So I decided to start on some projects that I have been wanting to do for a while.  This was the first one.  And I’m delighted with how it turned out.  And it is stupidly easy. [Read more...]

Birthday Gift Ideas

Someone buy these things for me okay? \\  www.cupcakesandcutlery.comMy birthday is this weekend!!  Yeah!!  I have no real plans at this point aside from a date night with my hubby.  This year doesn’t feel like it requires a crazy big celebration.  It does however, require a pedicure.  Here are some birthday gift ideas you all can buy for me.

Birthday Gift Ideas

A clutch that screams my name  .  a new sunbrella to keep me shady   .  cool shoes for my feet  .  this super fun picnic  basket/box  .  it’s time to start working on my summer wardrobe and this dress should be part of that  .  and this dress – I wear the heck out my other Novella Royale pieces and I love this print  .  and this fantastic gold tray wants to be in my house.

(You may notice that the link for the shoes is different from the shoe shown.  My husband explained that they change out their selection frequently.  And I’m too lazy to redo my collage.  And in fact I like the shoes in the link even better.)

See last year’s birthday post here.  It’s insightful.  I promise.